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The Rub

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Things are lackluster on this blog and I apologize. It is getting hard for me to write. I still read friends’ blogs and I am a little jealous of their anonymity.

Things were fine when this blog’s readership consisted of friends, law students at other schools, and a few scattered classmates. That’s over now. The unexpected byproduct of this year’s increase in local readership is that random people are getting really pissed off.

My readers are aware that I usually write anecdotes. I typically attribute quotes to a pseudonym and change some facts around to obscure the speaker’s real identity.

The people who are identifiable, like professors, coworkers, and boyfriends, receive gentle treatment for privacy reasons. That’s why I will mention breakups but don’t delve into the underlying causes. This isn’t Revolutionary Road. I want to maintain good relationships with the exes and besides, none of the boyfriends has lit the bed.

There’s a scene in “The Social Network” where Eduardo Saverin’s crazy girlfriend lights his bed on fire. Someone took Ring the Alarm a little too literally…

The problem with pseudonyms that the lack of an identifiable speaker means that random people wrongly assume that I’m writing about them (or their friends) and shoot me nasty facebook messages/tweets about misquoting or misrepresenting them.

Let me reiterate that most of these people pissed off about my posts have nothing to do with the situation. They weren’t present, and don’t know the people who were.

I haven’t written at length lately because I’m tired of this bizarre attention and criticism. But that creates another problem – I’m posting just enough to be thoroughly dull and people have started to comment (and speculate) on the lack of substantive posts. Well crap.

One girl even used the lack of a post as an admission.

The dullness ends now. The frenemies are going to scavenge this blog and fabricate drama for as long as the blog exists, so I’m going to stop playing Tammie Brown for fear of being pegged a Tyra Sanchez. It’s good to be back.

9 Comments

  • Gary
    October 17, 2010 at 4:23 pm

    I bet you pissed off Brian, didn’t you?

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  • Jenny
    October 17, 2010 at 4:34 pm

    Seems like a no-win situation. Some people are overly sensitive and insecure in general. These same people also automatically assume they’re being talked about when witnessing two mutual friends talking quietly to each other.

    I’m glad your back to blogging openly again! Your posts are funny, insightful and I love reading them; looking forward to reading more!

    Wait were you talking about me in this post?! HA! Just kidding 🙂

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    • Jansen
      October 17, 2010 at 6:24 pm

      Haha Thank you!

      I WAS actually talking about you when I wrote “friends’ blogs!”

      Reply
  • […] And then there’s the other 40%ish of the 149 entries in the blogroll who are in the ~ and ~~ range. Some of the folks who still write regularly have also pondered throwing in the towel, or scaled back due to drama. […]

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  • Gary
    October 18, 2010 at 9:09 am

    Brian is the dude on that flyer who wants to make friends.

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    • Jansen
      October 18, 2010 at 11:38 pm

      Ooooh nono. Not at all. Haha. Especially given the things people have written on those posters.

      Reply
  • brran1
    October 20, 2010 at 1:25 pm

    Hmm.As long as they don’t start following you around the neighborhood, you should be ok. Lol

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    • Jansen
      October 20, 2010 at 3:41 pm

      That’s happened…

      Reply

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